Stage Fright Anxiety



fear public speaking


Not so long ago I had a client who came to see me about a lack of confidence standing in front of colleagues. Paul (name changed) from just outside Ulverston in Cumbria had recently been promoted to a position which required him to over see a number of colleagues some of which he had known for a number of years and informally. Even though he had confidence in every area of his job he still felt a subconscious sense of incompetence when it came to this new role. When it comes to self image and confidence, the internal dialogue which is usually quite unhelpful can make someone doubt not only their own validity but their own ability to perform. Public speaking, and in fact, any kind of performance, often triggers the subconscious release of adrenaline into the system in anticipation of being recognised and respected by the audience the person is standing in front of. Stage fright, as any actor will tell you is a very real problem.

People who have a fear of public speaking very often have encountered a sense of embarrassment at some point in their lives, probably when they were made to stand up in front of a group of peers at school and deliver a presentation of one kind or another, which left them feeling nervous and unsuccessful, regardless of whether that was true or not. This core memory then unfortunately gets locked away in the subconscious and becomes a point of reference for all future encounters with any kind of situation involving speeches and/or performing. With Hypnotherapy this core memory can be re-calibrated so that it can be replaced with a much more positive outlook which can then eliminate a person's nerves and lack of self belief

With Paul from Ulverston we were able to furnish him with a set of psychological tools which he was then able to use before and during his contact with his new colleagues. Once he was able to prove to himself that he was no longer feeling the same level of nervousness he in effect created a new core memory for future competent and self assured performances when functioning within his new role. The process was quick and effective and in fact this is what Paul had to say recently.

“Since coming to see you David (Cumbria Hypnosis) I finally feel I have found my feet in this new job. At first I was sceptical whether hypnosis would be the thing for me, but after just a few sessions it became clear that this stuff really works. I now feel so much more in control and just want to thank you again”

Neurolinguistic programming and Hypnosis can be profoundly helpful when it comes to dealing with self-image and confidence. With our clinic helping people from all over Cumbria, including Ulverston, support for this issue has never been more readily available.

If you would like to explore your options when it comes to developing greater self belief and confidence when dealing with any situation involving public performance, whether for your job or for a private reason then follow the link HERE to be re-directed to our dedicated page.
This clinic serves Ambelside, Barrow, Coniston, Cockermouth, Carlisle, Dalton, Dalston, Grange, Keswick, Kendal, Penrith, Ulverston, Whitehaven
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Are You An Angry Person?

What truly annoys you? Maybe it’s your boss, maybe it’s your kids, maybe its the unfair way the government is giving with one hand and taking with the other or maybe it’s because the thought of another working day, travelling in a stuffy car and being cut up by some thoughtless driver; the one that totally ignores the fact that no indication was given and so you had to make an emergency maneuver to avoid collision. Whether it’s down to a thoughtless spouse or irritating neighbour, anger is an emotion which plagues us all and unfortunately all too often.

We can control it right? Well that depends. If you have grown up knowing that you can express how you feel and have felt listened to then the chances are you have developed socially adept skills at dealing with your anger. But what if you didn’t have that opportunity and your frustration and feeling misunderstood wasn’t given its proper forum for expression? What happens then? Often, people will grow up with undealt with issues, around powerful and often unresolved memories and experiences, which left them unhappy in some way. This inevitably leads to frustrations and feelings of insecurity, which then have to manifest in some way. The subconscious mind is very good at recording a particular emotion and connecting with that emotion many years later through some very innocent trigger. Once triggered, then anger and rage can be unleashed. In times of great emotional stress, people can exhibit uncharacteristic and often extreme behaviours which can be fueled by alcohol and accelerate uncontrollably with dire consequences.

As our roads get busier, road rage is now becoming a very serious problem for many commuters. Where does this problem come from? Again it originates from a feeling of not having control over a situation, in this case the actions of other self-serving drivers. The trigger is latent stress, which develops through our everyday experiences with negative occurrences. The husband, who has an argument with his wife or teenage daughter, leaves home without releasing any of the tension. He arrives at work and struggles with a project which needs to meet a deadline and he knows his reputation depends on it. In the afternoon the printer needed for the all important project deadline is malfunctioning and even though our imaginary man is able to resolve the problem he has layered even more tension until eventually he is driving home knowing that he has a further one hour commute stuck in traffic and the inevitable selfish driver behind is flashing his lights to get past and the cork finally pops!

Angry people are only human but this damaging emotion can destroy relationships, get people disciplined or sacked and if unchecked will eventually lead to all kinds of health issues including stress, low self esteem and even depression. So are there ways to deal with this problem. Clearly there are otherwise we would have all killed each other by now.

Learning to create a natural release valve, which you build in to your everyday routine, is the best way to keep the latent stress to a minimum and these practices can be as simple as fifteen minutes of dedicated relaxation time every day. In fact it is now generally accepted that with diligent meditation practices people live longer, are healthier and cope better especially with damaging emotions like anger. If you would like to find out about effective tools for dealing with anger then you can find information here
http://www.mind-sync.co.uk


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