Stage Fright Anxiety

fear public speaking

Not so long ago I had a client who came to see me about a lack of confidence standing in front of colleagues. Paul (name changed) from just outside Ulverston in Cumbria had recently been promoted to a position which required him to over see a number of colleagues some of which he had known for a number of years and informally. Even though he had confidence in every area of his job he still felt a subconscious sense of incompetence when it came to this new role. When it comes to self image and confidence, the internal dialogue which is usually quite unhelpful can make someone doubt not only their own validity but their own ability to perform. Public speaking, and in fact, any kind of performance, often triggers the subconscious release of adrenaline into the system in anticipation of being recognised and respected by the audience the person is standing in front of. Stage fright, as any actor will tell you is a very real problem.

People who have a fear of public speaking very often have encountered a sense of embarrassment at some point in their lives, probably when they were made to stand up in front of a group of peers at school and deliver a presentation of one kind or another, which left them feeling nervous and unsuccessful, regardless of whether that was true or not. This core memory then unfortunately gets locked away in the subconscious and becomes a point of reference for all future encounters with any kind of situation involving speeches and/or performing. With Hypnotherapy this core memory can be re-calibrated so that it can be replaced with a much more positive outlook which can then eliminate a person's nerves and lack of self belief

With Paul from Ulverston we were able to furnish him with a set of psychological tools which he was then able to use before and during his contact with his new colleagues. Once he was able to prove to himself that he was no longer feeling the same level of nervousness he in effect created a new core memory for future competent and self assured performances when functioning within his new role. The process was quick and effective and in fact this is what Paul had to say recently.

“Since coming to see you David (Cumbria Hypnosis) I finally feel I have found my feet in this new job. At first I was sceptical whether hypnosis would be the thing for me, but after just a few sessions it became clear that this stuff really works. I now feel so much more in control and just want to thank you again”

Neurolinguistic programming and Hypnosis can be profoundly helpful when it comes to dealing with self-image and confidence. With our clinic helping people from all over Cumbria, including Ulverston, support for this issue has never been more readily available.

If you would like to explore your options when it comes to developing greater self belief and confidence when dealing with any situation involving public performance, whether for your job or for a private reason then follow the link HERE to be re-directed to our dedicated page.
This clinic serves Ambelside, Barrow, Coniston, Cockermouth, Carlisle, Dalton, Dalston, Grange, Keswick, Kendal, Penrith, Ulverston, Whitehaven

Gambling your life away

Gambling your life away

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A few weeks ago one of my clients, John (name changed) from Kendal in Cumbria came to see me about his problem with gambling. This gentleman was suffering from a life which had been destroyed by his inability to look beyond his infrequent wins. He was completely addicted to the idea of horse racing (real and virtual) and over the course of a number of years had managed to lose over £50,000. This was clearly a serious problem for him. Not only had it ruined him financially but it had also taken away his life socially and personally. His inability to walk past the temptation of maybe being able to ‘win this time’ had meant that he was alienating him self from every relationship and was even being stopped from seeing his own children because the relationship with his partner had broken down to such an extent. The desperation on this man's face was clear when he first came to see me. Attending gambling anonymous had not helped and simply talking about it in some kind of counselling context had been equally ineffective. What could be done?

John’s problem is very common indeed and in fact affects over 40% of the adult population based on data as recent as 2014. With any addict the problem is always associated with the emotional feelings created by an artificial release of a powerful hormone into the system called dopamine. The problem with dopamine is that once it gets into your system and gives you that thrill feeling you require twice as much next time to get to the same level you experienced the first time. It is the surge of excitement associated with the initial thrill which leads to the need for gambling strengthening and eventually becoming addictive. Unfortunately once someone is addicted then the prioities in a person’s life shift and person can become isolated and detached to the point where they are unable to see clearly or make rational judgements.

Through the treatment I was able to offer John we were able to disassociate him from the emotions that he felt around the idea of winning a particular horse race and therefore neutralising the release of dopamine. In effect there was no longer any thrill associated with the idea of winning so therefore the thought of gambling very quickly lost its interest. This approach is highly effective for this particualr addiction if the person can engage with the creative process. Hypnotherapy and hypnosis as well as a combination of other psychological tools like neurolinguistic programming are powerful when it comes to dealing with liniting behaviours like gambling because they make the shift back to rational thinking effortless and automatic. Thankfully ‘John’ is now in a much better place and is manging to his life back on track, looking forward to making this a very positive year (2016 at the time of writing this blog). This was what he had to report recently.....

“ I have my head sorted out with thanks to yourself, am in a good place and think about things in a different perspective, to what I use to, am am busy taking my father for his treatment at this present moment in time, thanks for all your help if I ever need you I will be in touch, and I will highly recommend you to people, thanks again “

With a decade of experience The Cumbria Hypnosis habit change clinic serves the entire Cumbria and South lakes region, inluding Kendal and Lancaster. If you would like to find out more about the power of hypnotherapy to deal with an addiction like gambling then click HERE to be redirected to our dedicated page.
This clinic serves Ambelside, Barrow, Coniston, Cockermouth, Carlisle, Dalton, Dalston, Grange, Keswick, Kendal, Penrith, Ulverston, Whitehaven